Titled that because I’ve had other friends get heated for no reason about the same subject.
Interracial dating. It’s a thing, get over it. I have never dated someone who was black, not because I don’t want little gorgeous chocolate babies or because I want other colors of the rainbow children… IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH CHILDREN DAMNIT!
I haven’t dated anyone who was black because I just haven’t. Simple as that. I’ve had crushes on many boys from different races but because of whatever reason I just have not dated someone who was black. I have dated Spanish guys, Asian guys, and white guys though. One “friend” suggested that I must not like that I am black… false. I come from a very awesome family of Black/Asian people. A proud lineage of people of a mixed culture. Although I am “mixed” I do identify as black solely because that’s what people see first and I choose not to try and fight that assumption because it does not affect me in any significant way. I love me for all of this bodaciousness.
So, I do not date outside of my race because i hate my race and I do not date outside of my race because of the potential babies. Where does that leave me, I wonder?
I must just date people that I click with? No possible way, right? No way there is some kind of ulterior motive!
But that’s the thing, I DO just date people I click with. It’s not a controversial statement of me being “color blind” it’s a plain, matter of fact statement that I just date the people, regardless of race, that I have a lot in common with.
This is a picture of my manfrand [boyfriend for those who are not familiar with me and my terms lol]. He is obviously not black. He is half Mexican and half Filipino which is kind of dope being that the other half of my family is also Filipino. I love him not for that but because he loves me and we share a common love for a lot of things.
Being in an interracial relationship has not changed my life to some overwhelming degree. Being part of the BWAM/AMBW group has not made me more worldly or anything ridiculous like that. The most we have ever spoken about race is when he looks at my tumblr and sees all the race war stuff. Culturally, we don’t have a lot of differences. Lifestyle wise we don’t have a lot of differences… I just don’t get what the huge deal is sometimes besides the aesthetic and novelty of seeing the different, beautiful shades of people in general.
This post is not meant to offend anyone at all. I just think that if you out actively seeking a romantic relationship with someone BECAUSE of their race then you’re idea of what true, unyielding love is got thrown into a paper shredder along the way. I think that when you make a genuine connection with someone, you shouldn’t be looking at outside factors such as, but not limited to, their skin color, what they are wearing or how much money they make. All of that shit, minus the skin color, can be changed. Now, if you are worried about what others in their cultural background may say, again, look at the connection with that person and tell everyone else to screw off. If someone told me I couldn’t be with my SO because his ancestors came up from Mexico a long time ago and make their food with a lot of spices I think I would actually ask them if they were stupid. Seriously. I’ve had similar discussions when I dated white guys, “But his people enslaved blacks.” Well, HE didn’t so… what do you want.
TL;DR: Don’t date someone FOR or BECAUSE of their race. Don’t date them because you could make beautiful mixed babies with them. Don’t date them because you maybe hate your own race (I hope that isn’t a thing). Date them, connect with them, love them for their personality. Love them for the love they give back to you. Whether you are black, white, brown, green, gay, trans or otherkin THIS SHIT
And fuck the haters.